With loved ones in the united state south, I constantly thought the the definition of "kissing cousin" was a 2nd cousin (or more distant) who you might kiss and subsequently marry (FWIW I never ever did either!).

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However, a number of dictionaries have a really different definition: namely, a relationship close enough to kiss on meeting (sort of favor a hug, ns gather). I never ever heard the term supplied this way. Is the a current "invention"?


kissing cousin noun 1. A relative close sufficient to it is in kissed in salutation, hence anyone v whom a human being is reasonably intimate: The two species will regularly prove to be kissing cousins, for they"ll crossbreed. You guys talk choose kissing cousins

TFD and Oxford Dictionaries confirm The dictionary of American Slang"s definition.

The closest referral I found to the idea I pointed out was the discussing of Cousin Marriage in Wikepedia.

Has any else heard the term used to refer to cousins who can be married?

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The ax usually means a blood relation who is distant enough that you can fool approximately with, or indeed also marry / have kids with.

Your yes, really question:

Are the dictionaries wrong/incomplete?

Yes, this is one unusual situation where, apparently, every the recommendation works space just plain wrong.

Yes, the reference works mentioned are completely, totally, wrong.

(Note: the idea that the expression related come "greeting procedures" is completely nonsensical. The idea of american (now or historically) "kissing" in greeting is absurd.)

So, speak a son "played doctor" with a complete sibling, or a full an initial cousin. That would be very disturbed and psychologists would be called-in.

But a "kissin" cousin" is a loved one - far-off enough - where it"s NOT a mental emergency if there is some mild sexual involvement.

The ax cheekily argues the frisson the (very mild) incestuous sexuality.

Like any kind of term, that course, that is supplied in different ways:

(*) distantly related sufficient that children can "play doctor"

(*) distantly related enough that two world can certainly have complete unprotected sexual intercourse

(*) distantly related sufficient that, legally, two human being can acquire married

You require only look at the discussed Elvis song which has astonishingly sexually life lyrics.

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It - uh - playfully talks about light incest, for an example of the consumption of the expression in question:


Well I"ve got a gal, she"s together cute together she have the right to beShe"s a remote cousin.But she"s not too distant with meWe"ll kiss every nightI"ll squeeze her tightBut we"re kissin" cousinsand that"s what makes it every rightAll right, every right, every rightMy God, lyrics were explicit then.